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Whenever the term “leadership” is mentioned, we often tend to focus our attention on something bigger or someone heading a specific position of power. This could partly be true.  The question is “does everyone have a leadership personality?”.

One thing I notice about leadership and also do most, is that leadership looks far beyond ruling , leading or governing others. Real leadership begins by governing one’s own self. How we try to organize, manage  and balance our different set of values. From how we talk, when to talk, how disciplined we are, accepting our weaknesses and strength, and many other traits, which make up our personality.

Everyone has a leadership personality. As long as we all perform different roles in society such as parents, father,mother, elder brother/sister, boss, etc, we all have intrinsic traits of leadership . What actually makes our leadership traits or styles different are the influences or changes we experience such as how we grew up, our background and hence our individual perception about life.

Leadership means directing, showing examples.Directing those you lead with an objective of establishing amongst those you lead,the mindset that it benefits everyone, not one at the detriment of the other. Basic attributes of leadership involve listening, patience, self-control, impartiality, good foresight,adaptability and action. Great leaders spend most of the time serving rather than being served.

Not everyone who assumes position of power is definitely a great leader. As earlier mentioned, one great attribute of great leadership is being capable of governing your own self . For instance,if you have an addiction problem, you may find it challenging in addressing issues on addiction, if you’re self-centered, you may not really get the true meaning of giving, if you have a record of being disrespectful, you may not understand the necessity of respecting others, not to talk of those you serve and the list goes on. So, it becomes more challenging leading and understanding others without first of all having the capacity to lead yourself. Unfortunately, we live in a power thirst, fame, dominant society, in which the definition of leadership is given a different meaning. Whereby leadership sometimes is portrayed as an opportunity for being served rather than to serve. And so, getting up to that stage,regardless of how we get there, is often primarily motivated by getting the focus rather than focusing on those to be served.

Most of the root causes of  conflict stricken societies faced in the word today could simply be traced as a result of issues in leadership. Be it in our families, relationships, communities or country, an indispensable asset in maintaining order and the lifespan of such relationships, is effective leadership. It is for this reason leaders are often held accountable whenever things go wrong.

One major challenge we face in our world today is the vacuum of leadership.  Not everyone who occupies a post of responsibilty automatically qualifies to be a leader. Leadership entails understanding and the build up of trust between a leader and those he/she serves. It is an opportunity to improve, not discourage. With an open mindset, you become more prepared in adapting to changes with time.

Irrespective of the different styles we use in leading, the core principles remain having a passion to improve and guide individuals thereby automatically gaining respect. One thing very common about effective leaders is their ability to look beyond. How their decisions and actions benefit not just the present but trying to predict the benefits in the future.

Leadership is not suppression. It’s not silencing voices and encouraging fear and of course it’s not a means of abuse and disrespect. Instead, pragmatism and courage is what’s needed without which we are bullying rather than leading. Weak leaders hide their fears by silencing those they lead; Courageous leaders spend time listening because they know it’s part of leadership.

”Weak leaders hide their fears by silencing those they lead; Courageous leaders spend time listening because they know it’s part of leadership”.