How do you usually respond to insults? How beneficial has your method of response been to you?
One way we get to know ourselves better is by the way we usually respond to insults. We do react differently when we get insulted, sometimes well and sometimes very badly. We do get insulted once in a while, regularly and by people we know very well as well as others we do not know at all. Just like words, people also get insulted simply by actions. But what do insults actually mean to you? Are all insults worth responding to?
Below are some important points to consider before responding to insults;
The reality about insults is that their impact is defined by the way we react to them. One important point to know about insults is that not every statement or action in the form of insult has any significance. Therefore it is never always worth responding any time we feel disrespected. Sometimes due to our lack of willingness to understand the content of insults, we usually focus on the intent rather than the content itself. Thus the significance of any insult depends on how we interpret and act on the content of insults.
If you are not confident about yourself, there is a high chance you will react poorly to insults. The way you react to insults can determine your level of insecurity. For example, if you are insulted you have big head or you are fat, the way you respond is usually related to how you normally evaluate yourself . If you feel you are reminded over something you have no control of, it is absolutely unnecessary responding. Not only can you not change anything about the situation but it becomes very evident as to how insecure you feel about your head. On the other hand, feeling bad or reacting when insulted fat isn’t going to change anything about your body. Instead, accepting who you are and believing you can do something about it alongside having people supportive around you should be the main focus. Sometimes we tend to focus our attention on our detractors rather than those supportive which is fair both to those supportive as well as yourself.
Sometimes due to the rapid nature of our response to insults, we fail to take into consideration any consequences that may occur as a result of our actions. In the process of wanting to get the last word, we either say or do things we later wished we never did. This may lead us into situations which may be very costly to us than the one who insulted or further exposes us than we ever imagined. This is an indication of poor response to insult and validates the intention of the one who insults, which is to hurt your feeling.
It is imperative to understand that insults do not necessarily need to be responded with words. We can respond to insults by action as well. In fact in most cases, the best way to respond to insults is through appropriate actions. Remember, not everything one says actually mean something. Therefore a better way to respond is by sending a message which questions the content and intent of the insults. Sometimes not acting at all on the insult is the best response.
Unlike criticism, insulting anyone is a sign of immaturity. And so you may want to be careful about choosing an appropriate response which indicates maturity. Let someone’s immaturity not create an easy platform for you to show weakness.
We do have a tendency of believing that the validity of a statement is a function of numbers. Meaning the more the number of people making a statement, the more accurate the point is. This is never always the case. It is very possible a group of 20 people make a statement out of naivety whereas you or just two are very correct. Therefore it takes stong character to focus on the content of a statement rather than numbers as a base for your response.
Another important point to note about insults is that sometimes you get insulted out of jealousy. People get jealous for different reasons and thus will do anything to send you a message in the form of insults. This is usually to get your attention. It’s not your fault and ignoring could be an appropriate response.
It is understandable that whenever we get insulted we feel disrespected. Thus we try to give a response as though something precious was taken away from us and want to get it back .The bottom line about responding to insult is ensuring you avoid engaging in worthless toxic exchanges in our quest to get back respect. This is never necessary and will save you a lot from practices which may be very costly.