It’s always easy to make opinions or remarks on any issue. Issues we are either versed with or ones we are just completely ignorant of. Some of these opinions are well thought of before being expressed whereas others are probably just said without being given any careful thought. The reality is until we are able to be in one’s place or situation, sometimes our opinions are those to be questioned instead. Meaning even though we judge, we not only rush to give opinions but expose ourselves to some level of ignorance.
We judge others for different reasons. Sometimes fairly, sometimes unfairly. But for whatever reasons we judge, all what matters to us most is proving a point why we are right. Making others believe those we judge are completely wrong or how we would have certainly done things differently.Even as we continue to believe we would have done things differently, the simple fact is these are just thoughts. They never always a guarantee any thing as we think, simply because of the different state or conditions in which the actions took place.
It is a human tendency to often rush into judging others. However, it’s always imperative we try to get our judgement right. Actually ensuring we’ve explored all possible facts otherwise we either judge ignorantly or for other personal reasons.
Below are some suggested points we ought to consider before judging anyone:
A very logical and of course first question we need to ask before rushing to judge others is ”why” they acted that way. This is not to in any way justify a questionable act. Instead, trying to explore all questions related to a particular behavior enables us limit any possibility of ignorance when forming opinions. As humans we sometimes act out of ignorance or under certain influence which we wouldn’t consider doing if we were aware. For example, questioning a friend’s smoking habit isn’t itself bad but you may want to find out why the friend started smoking. You may uncover reasons why you never had to judge but instead suggest other possible helpful ways for the friend.
2. No guarantee to act differently.
Similar to the first point, there is never a guarantee we would have done things differently. This is simply due to our different experiences and conditions in which we acted the way we did. Even though we may make valid points, it doesn’t always prove we would have necessarily done things right. Thus it is possible you would have done things worse even though you judge with a mindset you could have done things better.
3. Destructive approach.
Sometimes in the process of judging others, we end up hurting or help destroy them. Except we have different personal interests in why we judge others, the approach we use in judging is extremely important. There are moments in which we feel we are trying to help others in the way we judge them. Instead, what we do is condemn or destroy them completely. For instance, consistently being aggressive on a child performing poorly in school using slangs like dull, failure, doesn’t aid in the child’s growth. Even though your objective is for the child to succeed, you may obviously need to reconsider the approach.
We may want to consider why we sometimes judge others to avoid hypocrisy. Meaning we may avoid judging others for doing the same things we often do. Judging others for doing what we do only makes us hypocrites.
5. Get all facts.
Always ensure you at least try to understand the reasons for the person’s perspective on the issue. Otherwise, you are judging carelessly, unfairly, out of selfishness or you unknowingly have a bad judgemental habit. Therefore, it’s always important to explore all the facts before engaging into any judgement.
Generally, there is actually nothing wrong in judging others. Judging ensures a level of responsibility in the way we act or behave in our society. Meaning, as long as we judge rightly and fairly, judging becomes more helpful in society. Instead, what’s bad in judging is when we either rush or conclude, condemning others without carefully taking into consideration many factors. Therefore, it’s so important to question before you criticize, as you may find answers or reasons not to.