Do you ever feel you are treated unfairly based on some stereotype perception about you? Do you often feel discriminated based on status or what people feel about you? How do you handle being considered a minor, less important or insignificant by those around you and society in general?
There exist periods in our lives when we feel limited not by the obstacle of our inability but by the obstacle of others’ perception about us. When we get reminded of how weak or worthless we are and consequently denied the opportunity of better expressing ourselves or get what we feel we deserve. Regardless of the level of discrimination or prejudice one has to go through, it’s always important to find ways to deal with it properly.
Every human is born with unique qualities and potential. Regardless of status or category in which we find ourselves in life, everyone has intrinsic qualities you can’t find in other humans. Unfortunately, due to different circumstances, we are not able to uncover and explore this potential for our benefit. A perfect example of situations which help prevent us from discovering such qualities is when we are being less looked upon by others based on a stereotype perception on us. When we are constantly reminded of how weak, terrible or insignificant we are due to a perception of our status or a particular trait.
Besides the ills of discrimination or prejudice in our society, discrimination distracts us from knowing how capable we are as humans. This is by allowing us to constantly have a picture of how limited and incapable we are and how we ought to be treated in such regard. Thus we are either tempted to have a resistive reaction to this unpleasing perception or feel defeated. Even as we continue to expect the best from society, one thing we will for sure encounter is unfair treatment either short or long-term. However, what should be of concern is how we deal with any form of discrimination or bias we encounter.
Below are some key elements we need in order to live through the unpleasing experiences of any form of bias or discrimination in society;
1. Positive thinking.
One thing we all need to do in order to live a much more happy and serene life is to always try to keep the mind positive. Positive thinking implies having an optimistic attitude. Believing there is always a way out despite the most challenging moment and being hopeful for a better future. Just like any other challenges we face in our lives, consider discrimination as an obstacle to be overcome rather than one enough to give up. Thinking positively prepares a mind more open to finding feasible solutions to overcome unfair treatment. This does not mean you shouldn’t try to address the situation but rather from a perspective that despite the intolerable situation, you are hopeful of finding a way out or surviving.
2. Resilient character.
Unless you are physically threatened, words alone should never break you down easily. Often times people easily get influenced, over react or get defeated by words. Some get so offended by words or behaviour that in their quest to address the situation, they engage into inappropriate activities which highly cost them even more than the words. It is therefore advisable for one to always reassess their reaction to words or actions intended to cause them pain. We will always come across intolerable words and actions all of which are purposely to make us feel insignificant or worthless. And we don’t always have to react to them.
3. Focus more on yourself.
Spend more time on yourself, trying to figure out what more you can offer than why people make mean comments about you. Sometimes people don’t really know much about you than they think they do. And more often we don’t know more about ourselves than we think we do. It is for this reason we ought to spend sufficient amount of time getting to know more about ourselves as well as what more we can offer. You can definitely offer far more than you believe.
As long as we continue to live, we can be certain to witness different forms of discrimination or bias due to some unfair perception on who we in society. However, it is not always worth reacting or become defeated by such behavior. What it does is distract us from knowing what more we can offer by letting us focus on how limited we could be in society. It can also prevent us from exploring such potentials. Despite these intolerable behaviour or attitude towards us, a more optimistic attitude can be a proper way to begin addressing and overcoming this obstacle.