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Have you ever wondered why some problems hardly get solved despite being emotional about solving them?

The last thing we need when trying to solve problems is when we get too emotional.  Sometimes, we find ourselves trying to solve a problem in which at some point later do not understand why it seems unsolvable. At this moment we continue to insist probably on the same approach in solving this problem. What becomes more concerning is when we loss complete control of ourselves in solving these problems . This becomes the beginning of an uncontrollable ride in solving these problems, which either worsen the situation or could probably never be solved at all.

To be emotional about anything especially when it involves problem solving is quite a normal response. But what could be devastating is when we allow it control us rather than we controlling it. Some of these consequences can be felt when it comes to solving problems.

Below are some of the reasons problems gets more complicated solving when we become too emotional:

1. Emotions over facts.

This is one of the simple reasons why problems seem to get completely out of control. Where the focus is mostly geared towards how we feel about an issue rather than how it can be solved. During this period, we expect others to know why we feel the way we feel, how we feel and probably only our approach to solving it matters over all. The platform becomes less of fact-based, instead what counts is feelings.

2. Desperate.

We become desperate and therefore will do anything to solve the problem regardless of how feasible the approach is. This is the origin of why most problems get complicated solving. Desperation also makes us rush into judgement which could aid in aggravating the problem rather than solving it.

3. Poor judgement.

This is more common in problem solving especially when we get too emotional. We allow our emotions cloud our judgement and consequently judge poorly.  This results from the fact that little or no consideration is given to finding out facts but judging based on what feels right.

4. Closed-mindset.

Everything has to be all about you this moment. Apparently,your opinion and probably only yours counts. Other’s suggestions could be considered as against you even if their proposals could actually be helpful.

5. You loss control.

You completely lose control. Instead of being in control of the problem, the problem alongside your feelings is what controls you. Whenever we loss complete control of our emotions, we loss control of solving the problem and can be very devastating to us in a long-term.

Trying to find solutions to problems will require us to be in control of both ourselves and the situation at hand. This makes us stay focus on the problem rather than us been controlled by it. Being in control of our emotions saves us both time and energy , thus preventing us from feeling exhausted in the process of solving the problem.